Parents’ role in career selection is very important because they are a huge part of their lives, and their support means a lot to their children. Parents always want to keep their children happy and be successful in life. One of the ways to ensure is to guide the children and support. They gain more confidence in their own ability to choose their career and make decisions. If they are able to make career choices at an early age, they can be guided early on too. It is for the parents to guide and motivate them.
Children usually learn a lot from their parents. Their parents unconsciously influence them in many ways. Their level of education they achieve, the knowledge they gain, and the different occupations they learn about, the belief and attitudes they have towards work, their motivation to succeed. Children absorb their parents’ attitudes and expectations of them as they grow up.
However, while guiding the children, parents should know how much to expect. Too much pressure will only stress them. They shouldn’t make the mistake of putting their dreams and ambitions to their children because they are different from their parents, and just like how the parents had dreams, their kids will develop their dreams too. Instead, set examples to their children by showing their work ethics and values. They should offer their children opportunities to learn and develop and maintain a good parent-child relationship.
The parents can help their children discover their talents, skills, and teach them how to make decisions by giving certain responsibilities. The parents must give space to discover who they are on their own. Positive influence is very important in a child’s life, although excessive parental control over career decisions can negatively affect outcomes. Parents should make it very clear that their children can pursue whatever streams or career path they want. There are some common career choices that most parents prefer, but that blocks the children’s way of pursuing what they are passionate about.
During this process, the parents’ role should be of a facilitator, allowing them to choose their career independently. They should always encourage their children to explore and gather information as much as possible about the areas they are interested in. And in no way allow the dreams that they may once have to come in the way.
Taking decisions about a career is very stressful, and parents, having gone through this stress, can help their children under such stress. Without proper guidance, children may get even more stress. With this firsthand experience, parents can easily guide and even motivate, but it should hinder their career choices. The times have changed, and with that, their children have a very different environment to deal with.
The parent should be well aware of their children’s aptitude, interest, the courses that they want to take and its availability, should be well informed before making any decisions, the scope of the chose career, and remuneration, if the job pays well enough to lead a satisfied and comfortable life.
Providing a friendly environment at home so that the children can approach their parents anytime they want would be a great way to break the age and generation barrier. Since they come from different generations, both will have misunderstanding and miscommunication. The parents should be able to reason for their children if they make any impulsive decision instead of getting angry and practice patience. Keeping track of the child’s changing interests is important to understand them better.
Parents should not expect their children to make the career choice when they are young, they can have preference and interest in a particular field, but it is okay to feel lost and undecided at such an early age. It is essential to understand that they need time and space to discover what they truly want to pursue and make the final decisions. As parents who have gone through the same thing might know that not many end up in the career they were sure about when they were 18. People make decisions based on what they know about themselves at the time. Take the pressure off from the children and let them know that it’s okay to make mistakes and be indecisive. The goal should be to make attempts every day in discovering themselves and finding their way.
Some of the things that you as a parent shouldn’t do are do not try to control your children’s decision, rather guide them. Do not burden the child with your expectations and your dreams. Let them have their own. Don’t be impatient when they make impulsive decisions. As someone living in the new generation, the parents should also try to adopt the new culture and new career opportunities because of the advancement. Giving advice is good and healthy but do not misguide the child into choosing a career of your choice. Before answering any query that the child may have, do proper research, and take time. Do not give answers to the queries you are not sure of. Do not allow any external person like relatives, friends, etc. to decide for your child. Let them make their own decisions.
Some of the things you should do as a parent and guide are you should evaluate your child’s strengths and weaknesses. Guide them in discovering their passion and interest. Motivate them to achieve their goals. Keep your child informed of all the existing available opportunities. If it gets hard for you to handle the research part, seek professional help who can guide your children the right way. They are professionally trained to guide people who are lost in career-related issues. If you know that your child is falling prey to peer pressure, stop them and guide them back to the right path. Once your child has discovered their interest and passion, help them by introducing the work culture and by associating them with professionals working in the same field. Be open to your child, gain their confidence, and discuss any doubts that they may have. Be an example for your children so that they can learn for you.
The world of the workplace is ever-changing and may seem scary for your children. Encourage your children to gather as much information and take advantage of as many opportunities as they can. Instead of turning down their ideas, consider it, and ask them to gather information about the certain area they are interested in. Remember to do it their way. It is their journey to finding themselves. You can only act as a guide. The approaches may not be the same as yours but give them their freedom to explore.